Service to others brings many blessings to giver

You can not turn on the TV these days without hearing about the tough economic times we are currently experiencing in this country including job losses, and high foreclosure rates. As the holidays approach many families are facing the reality that wish lists may remain unfulfilled and the cost of travel may impede them from being together.
    It would be easy to feel angry, disappointed or that we somehow failed ourselves and those we love by not being able to grant their wishes. In reality it is in times like this that we actually gain more blessings than we have lost. This is not to say that tough economic times are easy but they do demand a reevaluation of what is important, what is necessary and they remind us that there is always someone else in need of a helping hand. When we are left with little monetarily, wishes become good health, laughter, time spent with family/friends, food on the table and a roof over our heads. It is the relationships and connections we offer to others that are our true “gifts.”
As young people in your life begin to compile their wish list it is a perfect opportunity to talk about the blessings they already have in their lives and how many people may not be as lucky. Ask them what they might do to reach out and help those less fortunate not only at the holidays but throughout the year. For many youth the world is small and consists of school, home and their neighborhood. When adults create opportunities for service, young people’s world begins to grow as well as their confidence.
According to the Search Institute, Service to Others, is asset #9 of the 40 Developmental Assets, the qualities, experiences, and relationships that help young people grow up healthy, caring and responsible.
Mohammed Ali once said that “Service to others is the rent you pay for your room here on Earth.” The most effective way to teach youth the value of helping others is to model the behavior. Providing a meal to an elderly neighbor, visit or call someone who can not leave their home, or volunteer your time to an organization that you feel passionate about. Young people are watching your every move and they will be able to sense the joy you feel as you reach out a helping hand to those in need. Offer to join forces with your child to make a difference in the lives of others.
According to Search Institute youth who serve in their community one hour or more a week said they gained satisfaction from helping others, learned to understand people who are different than them, became more patient, kind and developed leadership skills. By giving of their time and energy, many young people felt they received more in return. It is through the spirit of giving with our hearts that we receive more than we could hope for.
As the holiday stresses mount it is my hope that you reevaluate what it means to give or get the “perfect gift”. What will make the difference in our lives can not be bought or sold it must be felt by the heart. Wrap up your unconditional love, support, and kindness and place it under the tree this year. It is the most life changing, thoughtful, priceless gift you can give.
“Want to know more about the 40 Developmental Assets and ideas for helping young people build them? Visit www.search-institute.org/assets.
 This article was brought to you by Aroostook Substance Abuse Prevention. For more information about ASAP and 40 Developmental Assets contact Allison Heidorn, project assistant at 540-6772 or visit www.asapcoalition.com